Life, Style

Selfie Time: November

Lanterns

Stumbled across these W.T. Kirkman oil lanterns the other day while walking to the yarn shop. They were just sitting on the sidewalk. Aren’t they great?

I joked to Ryan that I felt like a character in an LL Bean catalogue, living my “rustic” Martha Stewart life (minus a few horses). Taking a look at this picture, I think it does sum up this phase of fall.

I love fall but it scares me. Quite a few years in a row I’ve fallen prey to seasonal affective disorder. So since 2009 or so I’ve tried to have an active “fall plan” so that I don’t drift into a hole of depression once winter hits. Doesn’t that sound pathetic?

So I do what I like. I’ve been knitting a lot. Cooking delicious fall food. Wearing big sweaters and favorite boots. Watching movies and tv endlessly. Listening to opera full blast on Spotify. And being totally antisocial when I want to.

I think it’s working so far.

Art

Mood Disorders in the Media: Hyperbole & a Half

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On Tuesday I got a great surprise- the chick from Hyperbole & A Half was on Fresh Air, promoting her new book.  Well, make that two surprises, because I’d totally forgotten about the book.

The book is made up of some original content & some work from the blog. One of the most popular posts (which I linked to back in the day) was her two part series about living with depression. So of course it came up in the interview. The part about mental health is a must listen, especially if you have depression or know somebody who struggles with it. She describes the feelings (or uh lack of feelings) so vividly.

Talking about personal experiences with depression is never going to be easy, but hot damn! As the interview progressed my jaw dropped lower and lower. There seriously should have been a trigger warning. Terry Gross normally is pretty good about gauging the comfort level of her guests as she goes but in this interview she ended up fixating on the suicide aspect of this woman’s depression. She pressed and prodded, ultimately asking the guest to specifically detail out her previous suicide plans. Wow. O_O  It was so overwhelming to listen to this poor woman explain in a trembling voice how she was going to fake a drowning accident. I was basically crying at my desk at work. I had to take a break.

I don’t think that depression should be off the table for talking about in an interview, since it’s part of the author’s artistic work, but I just felt so ill during that segment. It felt mildly exploitative.

That said, the interview is mostly not a downer/ super hilarious . Seriously, just listen to it! Tho maybe not at work if you are a crybaby like me.

Travel

Cambodia: Heaven & Hell

Part 1: Siem Reap- Heaven

There’s no place like Cambodia. If you follow me on Instagram- sorry- you’ll recognize 99% of these photos. It’s a photogenic place.

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Getting to Cambodia overland from Bangkok used to be a pain, but now there’s a daily government bus that  is fast and scam free (ish)! In fact getting to the bus station in Bangkok was worse than the bus ride to Siem Reap. It took like flagging down 10 taxis in the rain just to make it the “final mile” from the metro to the bus station.

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It was a 6 hour ride through the rainy countryside. Lovely.

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Siem Reap is a bit of a tourist’s town. Everything is built around the magnificent Temples of Angkor.  We celebrated our arrival by eating Cambodian BBQ (beef, frog, crocodile, shrimp and snake) and having cocktails at my favorite bar in Siem Reap- Ms. Wong’s, a 1920s Shanghai cocktail bar.

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The next day we were up at 5am to catch sunrise at Angkor Wat.

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Traveling around the temples via tuk-tuk.

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Ta Prohm, the “TombRaider” temple

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Another view of Angkor Wat. Woof.

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Going down

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Receiving a blessing.

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Our hotel was right by a crocodile farm.

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The skin is for handbags and shoes, but they also sell stuffed babies as souvenirs. I was sorely tempted to start my taxidermy collection, but these are so freaky.

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The plush and pricey Siem Reap outpost of the Foreign Correspondents Club (FCC). It was early…

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Our bartender at Ms. Wong’s suggested that we go dancing  at Hip Hop Discotheque, where all the locals dance.

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Loved the place, although we drew a lot of attention. Not for being foreigners, but for our American style dancing :).  They don’t have twerking in Siem Reap. It’s more like a one two shuffle, with a lot of arm action. One drunk local even videotaped me dancing on his phone! CRRREEPAY.

Style

Selfie Time: Getting Old

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When J. Crew came out with the No. 2 pencil skirt a million years ago I wasn’t too excited. It was a pencil skirt, why was everyone freaking out about a basic and overpriced pencil skirt from J.Crew? It couldn’t really be all about the colors, could it?

About five months ago I was checking out the racks at Crossroads and found a wool No. 2 skirt. It was too small, but I tried it on anyways. The skirt was substantial, made of weighty and soft wool, and the color was a lovely lagoon green. It was 15 dollars, but damn it it didn’t fit. I really wanted it to.

I kept going back to Crossroads, but never ran into another one in the racks. On eBay the skirts sell for $20-100+ (depends on the material, “rareness” of the color, etc). If I had known this at the time, I would have bought that skirt and resold it online. But that is a story for another day…

As the years have passed I’ve found that I don’t have the stamina or patience to wait it out for specific items to show up at my local thrift shops. I did the math in my head and decided that if I was still thinking about that damn skirt  5 months later, I might as well just buy it. I got the double serge wool skirt in heather pine at 25% off, which is still too much, but I’m quite happy with the purchase. When worn in the right size, these skirts are deliciously flattering, warm and comfortable. I get the online hype, but still think J. Crew has really lost it with their pricing and general quality levels.

I’ve been playing around with different shoe and top combinations, and I think I’m going to go with this (blurry) look for the opera tomorrow night. I’m seeing Falstaff by myself, and it is supposed to be off the hook.

Anyways, what’s the point of these ramblings? Life is short. Buy the skirt. Go out alone. Dress up.

Travel

Bangkok Will Break You Down

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About a week or two ago my friend Max asked me when I was going to write something else on this here blog. I’ve been trying to write about my trip chronologically, and to tell you the truth, I wasn’t quite sure what to say about Bangkok. Then today my mom asked when I was going to post pictures from Vietnam (She’s so obsessed!). To get to Vietnam, I gotta write about Bangkok. So, here goes.

For better or worse, most visitors to Southeast Asia will pass through Bangkok at some point during their trip, especially if they are moving through multiple countries. It just makes sense. Bangkok is THE HUB. It’s easy to get anywhere in the region if you start here. Flights are (relatively) cheap and it’s something of a soft landing. If you’ve got money, it’s got all of the comforts of the western world. But then you never forget that you’re in Asia. There is a common Thai  saying: “Same same, but different.” Things in Thailand are similar to the west, but if you look closely, there’s a quirky tweak.

We flew into Bangkok after a few days in Singapore. As you may recall from my last post, Singapore was great fun, but I really needed a (cheap) drink. So I was pretty excited to be back in sinful Bangkok.

While Bangkok is indeed a mix of east and west, I forgot how fucking HARD the city can be. The first day or so was so obnoxiously difficult that I found myself wondering “What did I ever see in this filthy delirious city? Why am I here? Have I gone soft?”

Our first night in Bangkok we went out drinking in the unofficial expat neighborhood of Sukhumvit. Sukhumvit is basically a long ass road that runs through most of the city, kind of like the Market St. of Bangkok. Off of the main streets are the “Sois”- smaller sidestreets where the real life is.

We ended up not too far from the infamous Soi Cowboy (red light area), so as expected, we were surrounded by roundbellied and grey expats and their prostitutes. Now I knew this was the deal, but it started to feel weird after a few hours. When we had had enough to drink we tried to catch a cab, but the cabbies wouldn’t go to our hotel! Too far, they said. Crap. This was around 1 in the morning.

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At least the party vans were still open… Why does this not exist in SF?

One cabbie took us for a ride, and totally ripped us off, dropping us off at a hospital clinic, laughing. Ryan hopped out of the moving cab cursing. I threw the cab driver a few bucks so he wouldn’t come after us.  And so we were lost.  In Bangkok. Ugh.

So we walked.

Drunk.

In the rain.

Eventually, we were walking drunk in the rain on the side of the freeway. I was aching and drunk and wet and sad and so many things, but mostly exhausted. After some time walking the freeway, a passing cab took pity on us, and took us the rest of the way to our hotel.

The hotel was located behind a supermarket center, which normally we would walk through. Since it was so late, the center was closed. We wandered through the creepy back alleys, and had to hop a gate to get back to our hotel. We collapsed into bed, drunk and miserable.

BAD START.

The next day was also hard. Burned by cabs, we decided to take the train to Chinatown then walk to the river where all the palaces were. Bad idea. It looked close on the map, but was actually a two hour long walk. With the 90 degree+ heat and the stress of “walking” (consciously dodging traffic and hopping on and off sidewalks every single second) in Bangkok, I started to lose it. Tears were welling in my eyes. Why was I wandering this stressful dirty city when I just wanted to have a nice time? What was missing? Why was I so miserable this time around? How much money did I have to throw around to have someone take me somewhere clean and give me a Singapore Sling?

Eventually we made it to the water.

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We had a nice meal, some drinks. I sat there eating lunch wondering how things were going to get better. I willed them to be better.  And then things were better.

From then on we took cabs for any significant distance. And the cab rides were like $6 for 30 minute rides in rush hour traffic! SO CHEAP. Now it was still hard as hell to get cabs, because the cabbies wanted to bargain for a sky high fixed rate, and you had to flag down about 6 cabs before one would say yes, turn on the meter AND take you where you wanted, but it was way better than walking. The next few days we got Thai massages, saw some temples, and took things easy.

Looking back on the first day or so, I realized that we made some critical mistakes. We weren’t drinking enough water even though we were walking 10-12 miles a day. We weren’t taking cabs, and we hadn’t acclimated to the city before we went to the skeevy stressful parts of town.

Anyways, by the end of the trip I liked Bangkok again. But this recent stay was very humbling. I thought that I was so tough, and I really am, but even tough people need to take it easy sometimes. Why struggle?

 

Other bits of Bangkok… I didn’t take that many photos since I’d been before.

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Guerrero <3! In Saigon Paragon, the best mall in the world.

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At Above Eleven, a rooftop jazz bar. Yep, it’s pouring. There were also like 12 German bros and somebody’s mom here. Drinks were SF prices. 🙁

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